SURVIVAL IN DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY GATHERINGS

People all over the world, especially we Indians, are privileged with an enormous number of relatives from all regions of the world. We all have uncles, aunties, cousins, grandparents and blah blah. Though there are few ones we do not like, but have you ever given an attention how boring life would have been without these relatives? There are ones we do not like, there are few to whom we show warm affection and there are some who don’t really bother or trouble us. We can almost tag our relatives “the irritating cousin”, “the complainer”. It is funny that how we dislike these people, but they are the ones who make our family idiosyncratic and gatherings delightful. It is pleasant as long as they are not messing up with you, but issue arises when that relative turn you into his victim. You almost start calculating minutes ,start thinking when the whole gathering function will be over and you will go home. So here are some ways to tackle with the situation past experiences 🙂

First of all understand that you have the right to be miserable and upset with the way they are behaving with you: but that doesn’t mean you have the right to make them feel the way you are feeling .In fact, it’ll only make the situation nasty. Take a deep breath and start engaging yourself with food or some other stuff. If it’s not working then start imagining yourself in a relaxing place to help you calm down.

Sometimes it’s better to deactivate the question with another question, you can ask them any such question by which they will come in an uncomfortable situation and might leave you.

Some annoying people just want to hear themselves only, so let them give this opportunity. Because the more we ask questions or interrupt, it will provoke them to talk even more.

To deal with infuriating people effectively, it’s always good to keep the conversation light and happy. You can’t depend on toxic and negative people to respond to serious problems and issues in a positive, helpful way, so why bother trying?

So stick to conversation topic that you both enjoy and be happy discussing.

If nothing works out:

Remember they are just some annoying relatives; you don’t have to like them.

Conclusion: Annoying personalities are irremovable part of our life, but there are ways we can remove ourselves from annoying situations.